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Friday
10
June
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10:00 am - 11:00 am
Friday, June 10, 2022
St. John the Evangelist Church (Humboldt St)
553 Humboldt St, Rochester, NY
Rochester, New York, United States
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Sara posted a condolence
Monday, June 13, 2022
Our sincere Condolences to Ian Family. I can’t immagine how deep the emptiness left is. Ian joy and peaceful Essence Is significant and persistent. Buon viaggio Ian.
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Catie Camille posted a condolence
Sunday, June 12, 2022
I didn't know Ian for very long, but I will always remember his gentle nature and his deep kindness and I am grateful for that.
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Denise Scott posted a condolence
Friday, June 10, 2022
My sincerest sympathies to Ian’s family. Ian and Luke, my son, were best friends when they were young. They loved each other, and we loved Ian. It seems that Ian had much to teach people in his life about love, empathy, and understanding. I know that we will hold him in our hearts forever.
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Raymundo lit a candle
Friday, June 10, 2022
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We will always keep in our hearts the light that Ian gave us.
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Kiara McDade uploaded photo(s)
Friday, June 10, 2022
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One of my favorite memories with Ian (and one of my most cherished memories of this time in my life) is meeting in Florence when we were studying abroad in different cities at the same time. We were only there for maybe 24 hours – he found time to catch up with an old friend even though he had little time to spare and that was always true of him – but being in Florence with him felt like seeing him in his element. We rented rooms in a monastery at his suggestion (where he fit right in), he lit up when he heard the nuns sing the hours and we crept over to listen together, he chatted with people in shops who fell in love with him and his Italian, and he mused about a future spent in Italy.
We made plans to climb the Duomo in the morning, but somehow missed a tour time and instead went to mass at the Cathedral of Santa Maria del Fiore. We arrived early and he instantly connected with the sweetest woman who requested we pass the donations basket (in Italian, of which I know none, so Ian spoke with her then turned to me to ask if I was interested – he was so excited he forgot to translate, but he seemed so enthusiastic I trusted it was something good and agreed), and once mass was over, he had made such a sweet impression on her she took us literally under her arms and led us to a piece of art tucked away from the public.
It was just so beautiful and a testament to Ian's approach to life to have such a deeply personal, full experience in a place most visit as a tourist destination. He made every situation more vibrant and meaningful (and was just plain fun – he had the best laugh and was never embarrassed to be his goofy, curious, compassionate self and let you do the same) and on the rare occasions we got together after our paths weren't so close anymore, he brought out a better side of me. I've always thought of him often and fondly and now when I do, will be reminded to live a little kinder, more curiously and with more wonder in his honor.
To Ian's parents, family, friends and everyone who helped raise him to be the person he was and will always be in the many, many fond memories we all have of him, thank you. I'm not sure I'll ever meet someone as genuine and generous as Ian.
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Dan Eaton posted a condolence
Friday, June 10, 2022
Ian’s love touched so very, very many people and I count my blessings to be among them. He was, and still is, a gentle teacher.
His passing is a devastating loss to all of us and my thoughts and prayers are with Jack and Robin and all who knew Ian. Today and always.
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Joseph Scardino lit a candle
Friday, June 10, 2022
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In every interaction i had with Ian he made me feel like family, his reservoir of love and patience was so vast it was almost shocking. Never before (or since) have i met someone so effortlessly kind, loving, and intelligent. All of him will be missed, but the love he gave will stay within all of us. He is a true inspiration.
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Flavia Bozzolla lit a candle
Friday, June 10, 2022
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Our beloved Ian, or Juanito for us, will always be remembered as the sweetest and most enlightened soul ever. Our so many laughs and his gestures will never be erased from my mind. So kind, so bright, the highest spirit no matter the situation. Roberta, I'll never forget your kindnesses in our graduation. You raised such an exceptional human being, and he will definitely be with you in every step of your journey here, even if in another plan. I am so grateful for being one of the lucky ones who were fortunate to have him by their side. My eternal love to Juanito and his beloved family, wishing so much I could be there to share also this moment with you and give you the warmest of the hugs filled with so much affection.
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Friday, June 10, 2022
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Steven Farrington uploaded photo(s)
Thursday, June 9, 2022
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We loved having Ian with us at the Italian and Spanish Meetup groups. Such a great guy, such a kind soul, and such promise as an educator. May his memory be a blessing for all those who knew him. He will not be forgotten!
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Theresa and David Gilfoy posted a condolence
Thursday, June 9, 2022
Jack and Robin, our deepest condolences. Thoughts and prayers. We were blessed to have know Ian. Hugs.
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Irene posted a condolence
Thursday, June 9, 2022
Dear Ian,
I’m sure that you will always be with us from heaven. I will always treasure the rosary beads that you gave me. Thanks for all the love and care you gave to Ana Lucía. You will always be in my heart. Irene
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Thursday, June 9, 2022
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Here’s to days at St. Paul’s. Ian, you are a gift. Your life, light, and faith will stay with me.
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MaryAnn Borrelli posted a condolence
Thursday, June 9, 2022
"Death leaves a hurt that no one can heal.....
Love leaves a memory that no one can steal."
May his family be blessed with many wonderful memories that will provide them great comfort during this difficult time.
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John Diehl posted a condolence
Thursday, June 9, 2022
When I was initially treated for cancer Ian stopped over to the house to see how I was doing. We had a long talk about life, facing cancer, faith and family and moving forward with hope in your heart. I was very moved by his gentle and kind spirit and his positive resolve. He had an almost mystical goodness that radiated and conveyed a sense of peace and gentleness that fortified your spirit.
I am truly saddened that Ian is gone from the world at such a young age. John Diehl
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Thursday, June 9, 2022
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I am shaken and saddened to hear the news...I was not able to believe when I heard the news...
My deepest condolences to his parents, relatives and friends! May God give you strength and shower you with his love! My prayers and thoughts are with you during this difficult time!
Ian- was extraordinary and so special person in our cohort while we did our Master together in Milan...Ian was humble, with great sense of humor, kind, and so loving person.
He was bright like a "star" by many ways...You came to show us what is love and care about others.
He cherished every moment and always was there for anyone...
You will be badly missed and always remembered by your friends!!!
Rest in peace!
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Alex Bivona posted a condolence
Thursday, June 9, 2022
Like many, I was so lucky that my life was touched by Ian. The moment I met him, I knew how special he was.
Though our time at Fordham together was brief, our friendship will forever have an impact me. Whether we talked about our shared love of Italy or debated the best bagel, I left feeling better than I did before.
You couldn’t help but smile when being around him. His infectious happiness radiated from within.
The peaceful exuberance with which he lived his life both welcomed and inspired everyone he met.
He lived each moment fully, leading with compassion, respect, and empathy; showing many of us how a life of intentional purpose can positively impact anyone.
The gentleness of his soul and the purity of his heart were gifts to all who were blessed enough to encounter them.
Being with him truly made me feel closer to God.
He was a light in this world and his eternal flame will continue to shine bright through everyone his kind spirit touched.
My deepest condolences to his family and loved ones.
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Torre Christine posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
Words cannot express how saddened I am by Ian's passing.... During the short time I got to know Ian I knew from day one how special he was. He was a bright light that touched many people. Truly one of the best human beings I have ever met. I absolutely adored this kid, my heart is broken for the family. The world has truly lost a great human being
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Barbara Bonsignore posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
I had the pleasure of having Ian as my Italian teacher this spring through the Casa Italiana. He was a wonderful teacher, and a warm and caring person. I looked forward to his weekly class. I am so sorry to learn about Ian’s passing. My condolences to your family.
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Steven Farrington uploaded photo(s)
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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Ian was an amazing person, such a great friend. He will be sorely missed.
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Joseph Desciak posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
Ian was the most extraordinary student I've known at Fordham. His love of humanity and welcome to all persons was both an inspiration and gift. He was a gentleman and scholar. I'd meet Ian often around campus and even in the stillness of the Bl. Rupert Mayer Chapel at Lincoln Center. He was always the same: a loving, brilliant, compassionate man. He's changed me for the better and I will always be grateful for our friendship. --- Joe Desciak
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Vincent DeCola, SJ posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
I was privileged to know Ian at Fordham and to enjoy his intellectual curiosity and his joy of life which was so infectious.
From winning "Freshman of the Year" to being a welcoming presence on campus, Ian united our community by the love he manifested to all. My thoughts and prayers are with John and Roberta. - - Vin DeCola, SJ
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Fr. James Martin, SJ posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
I'm very sorry to hear this terrible news. Ian was a summer intern at America Media several years ago and was beloved by the staff. He was kind, funny, smart, thoughtful and a joy to be around. May he rest in peace and may God console all who knew and loved him.
Fr. James Martin, SJ
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Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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Alina Urbanic lit a candle
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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I have never met someone as genuine and positive as Ian. He noticed the beauty in the world around us so much and brightened the lives of everyone who got to know him. I admire that so much about him; that he maintained his optimism, and faith, and joy in the world, not because it was easy, especially in the face of real challenges, but because that's who he was.
I still cannot believe my good fortune that took me to Italy, only to have the universe surprise me and to give me a best friend from my hometown. I am so grateful for his friendship and impact on my life. Walking down any street anywhere in the world with him felt like walking with a celebrity, because of how many people he knew and warmly greeted, even if he didn't know them, along the way. He gave everyone the sense that he genuinely cared about them, and really took the time to see how people were doing. His thoughtful replies anytime I spoke with him are infinitely meaningful to me. I keep being struck by his absence when I see something I would want to share with him, and even while that brings a fresh wave of grief and loss, it reminds me that his spirit and his influence on my life will forever be with me, and that is such a comfort.
This world is at a loss without you here, Ian, but it is full of so many people who love you and we will try to make it as bright as you did. I hope above all that you are at peace, and send you all my love.
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Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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Ana Lucía Canales Herrerías lit a candle
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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I wouldn’t know how to choose one memory with him, because it’s my whole life he changed. Ian thought me how to see life differently, and thanks to him I learned to forgive, to be empathic, to see life with joy even in bad situations, and to always see the good in people. Thanks to him I learned how to appreciate the small pleasures that every day life has. The happiest soul, the best friend, the most understanding and loving person I know. Ian will be forever with me and my family, and everyday when I enjoy a coffee, when I feel the smell of flowers, when someone on the street smiles to me, when I travel, when I take a train, when I hear an Italian song from the 80s, when I take a nap on a weekend, when I eat cookies, when I go to a park or hear a guitar playing, I’ll think of him smiling and that will make me smile, and that is the most precious thing; him and his friendship made me become a happier person. All my love and prayers to you Juanito bonito.
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Flavia Bozzolla Posted Jun 10, 2022 at 5:29 AM
My dearest, Juanito is for sure all that you described. My love to you, as I know from the bottom of my heart how much he meant to you, in the most special way. Love love love and may our memories together with him remind us everyday that life is a blessing.
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Wednesday, June 8, 2022
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